"Anger 101"

Anger is part of life. And when you learn more about anger, you'll better learn how to deal with it with regards to yourself and others.

Anger is an emotion, and a very strong emotion at that. In fact, true anger is not something that you can bring out whenever you want. The true act of becoming angry and losing your temper means that you also lose control of yourself at the same time.

Unfortunately, this in turn, most often means that you temporarily lose control of your emotions, your reasoning abilities and your control over your thoughts and deeds as well.

And although anger can make us feel strong and in control over ourselves, the opposite is true, and instead we are left vulnerable and weak, open for the whole world to see just what makes us work inside - and triggers out.

Physical Anger

Anger also has its physical effects, and most of the time you will find that high blood pressure at the moment of anger is the most common sign of anger. Some people are also prone to becoming breathless, giddy or even tearful.

"Anger and You"

When dealing with anger, you mainly will need to decide these three main issues:

• First decide whether you need anger management on a very basic basis, or whether you need it on a more major level

• Then try and find out what your personal anger triggers are, you know, the things which set off your anger

• After that you can begin to learn how to control your anger, and what you can do about it.

Then decide to pencil in time to work on your anger issues. And gather basic supplies you'll need: paper, pen or pencil and eraser, notebook or folder.

"Anger and Society"

When you feel a desire to unload any anger that you are carrying around with you, you don't actually need to spill your guts to any and everyone. You don't even need to tell anyone the specific details of why you are in a bad mood.

Instead, try one or both of these options:

1) Find a friend who will be willing to listen to you talk your anger out. This is one of the best methods that you can find of relieving your anger.

2) The other good option for you to look into to relieve your anger and to get it out of your system is to talk with a qualified therapist who will be able to talk you through your anger.

"Inner Conflict"

Time to grab your pencil / pen and paper to dig in and some a little anger work. part of your goal in anger management would be to recognize these triggers for what they are, and to then be able to control or contain them later on. Jot down a few lines about the following triggers as they relate to you:

• Frustration
• Fear
• Driving
• Stress
• Emotional stress
• Unhappiness at home or at work
• Your relationships
• Having to keep a 'secret'
• Lack of sleep
• Rigidly held ideas
• The inability to adapt to a situation
• Having to cope with technology - not everyone is cut out for it
• The wrong diet

"Outer Solutions"

Do what you can to help you take control of your anger, just remember that every little helps, and in the case of managing your anger, this is especially true.

• Learn control

• Learn to see the bigger picture

• Laugh at yourself

• Don't take everything personally

How do you do each of these above? You can get help with:

• Meditation
• Therapy
• Self help books etc.
• Anger management courses
• A 'worry' stone
• Thinking 'happy' thoughts
• Counting to ten
• Learning to de-stress yourself
• Starting a therapeutic hobby